Friday, September 23

Bridesmaid 101: the Bachelorette Party!

**Before I start this post, I just want to say that although my tone may come across as whiny sometimes, I genuinely love to death every girl I’ve been a bridesmaid for, and would do this all again, tomorrow.**
Oh, bachelorette parties. They’ve become such a thing, haven’t they? Let’s begin by setting the precedent that your bachelorette party has no effect on your marriage! The most important thing is that your bride-to-be feels celebrated, in her own special way.

+ My first pieces of advice is DO NOT HAVE YOUR BACHELORETTE PARTY IN NASHVILLE. I’m kinda joking…but just keep it classy, ok ladies?

+ First up: So you’re not the Maid of Honor. Should you even care? In a word- yes. I’ve been in a few situations where: there is no Maid of Honor, the MoH lives far away, the MoH is a very pregnant older sister, etc. etc. Put yourself in the bride’s shoes, saddle up, and secure yourself that “best friend of all time” spot by blowing her away!

+ If you’re not the Maid of Honor and she reaches out about the Bach, for the love, please be attentive and respond and help her in any way you can.

+ Have an honest conversation with your bride. What does she want the most? A chill, cabin or beach weekend away is totally cool! A hybrid with one night out is cool. A long-weekend rager in Vegas is also cool (and I’m still waiting for my invite to that one, btw.)

+ That being said- I think in 4/4 bachelorette parties I’ve been involved in planning, the bride-to-be has specifically requested nothing trashy at all, to which I say “She doesn’t know WHAT SHE WANTS!” And factor in that the surprise and delight and general high of being trapped in a house with 10 girls will make some shenanigans a-ok. :) Cake is cake.

+ Be sure and confirm the guest list with the bride, including any random additions that aren’t bridesmaids (sisters of the groom, cousins, etc.)

+ Send out a feeler email to that crew just as soon as you can. Figure out what you want and don’t want to spend money on. Budget is THE most important thing to nail down. Nothing is worse than booking an amazing house in Santa Barbara, only to learn that the group has a budget of $0. Also- you may find it easier to just make the plans and invite people, without taking input.

+ I take it back: THEME is the most important thing to nail down, non-negotiable. A theme gives you your hashtag, décor & swag, & just makes it fun. Themes I’ve participated in: wild/animal print, luau, firefighter, nautical.

+ Make Google docs your best friend! At the very least, start an itinerary, budget, and décor sheet, and delegate the heck out of it. Once again, not everyone is a planner, but it is reasonable for you to assign tasks (everyone brings a snack & drink to share, someone is in charge of the banner, someone is in charge of coordinating the activity, etc.)

+ Having swag is great, but I don’t think t-shirts are your best bet. There are several simpler items that are just as cute, so much easier, and cheaper than a t-shirt that will probably never be worn again (koozies! sunglasses! tumbler cups!) I think it’s most important that the bride has fun things to wear for every activity (this is the time to get your best friend to wear that tiny sparkly cowboy hat like you’ve always dreamed of!)

+ Airb&b. Use it! Staying in a house is the most fun and cost effective option for a big group. Book this as early as you possibly can, and while some hosts are strictly against parties, I think it’s generally worth it to send a message explaining your party (“We are all young professionals that will mostly be on the town and I am SUPER responsible.”)

+ Hashtag. This is seriously the easiest thing you can do to delight your bride and stay on theme. The more creative, the better; bonus points for incorporating their new last name! Encourage Demand that the party guests use the hashtag as MUCH as possible. (Some ideas: #AmandaGoesWilder, #JenaesLastLuau, #MrsSuarezEnFuego, #AndreasFinalFiesta, #FutureMrsPappu.)

+ In my opinion, a perfect bachelorette party is a mix of plans and un-plans. You’re going to have a lot of personalities, and a lot of girls getting ready. Make sure you schedule downtime to craft, or chill, or nap. Each day really only needs one big planned activity.

+ I could write an entire post on saving vs. splurging for a Bachelorette party. Just know that even if you are traveling, there are so many inexpensive options for activities, décor, and food. You do NOT have to max your credit card to have a successful Bachelorette party.

+ On that note…go to Dollar Tree. This is the best place to get super cheap party supplies in any color palette. They also have wonderful kitschy stuff for decorations (I’m waiting for the day that I can plan a Christmas themed bachelorette party) and the best part is it’s all one dollar! Holllla

+ Again on that green subject…be prepared to spend money and not get it back. In a perfect world, everyone wants to split things fair and square, but in reality, you’re planning the party, and you WILL end up spending your own money on things. It’s best to go into the weekend knowing that and factoring that into your wedding gift. Addendum A to this point is: when it comes to things like paying for the accommodations, invoicing on Venmo is a real thing, that I wish I had known about sooner. If a party guest does not have Venmo downloaded on their phone, don't let them into the house.

+ Dinner reservations. Make ‘em. That’s all I have to say.

+ Some brides have the bandwidth to have multiple showers, but keep in mind that a Bach party is a perfect place to tuck in a lingerie shower. This can be as simple as a pair of novelty panties for your bride. (<-- a sentence I have never before written.) 

+ Now enjoy yourself. You planned this shebang, and while your top priority is making sure your bride has the time of her life, you earned your champagne, sister.

Alright ladies, Bachelorette party tips, tricks, themes and hashtags- let's hear 'em! Share below in the comments. This is totally a safe space for shenanigans.

Missed the kick-off to the series? Check out Bridesmaid 101: Now What? 
Stay tuned for Bridesmaid 101: the Bridal Shower, up next!

Wednesday, September 21

A Posh Swap

| necklace: Mexico | tee: super old H&M | skirt: Marimekko for Anthropologie via Poshmark swap | watch: c/o JORD |   | clogs: Swedish Hasbeens / similar |

Marimekko is a brand I’ve been obsessed with forever- and for good reason! Not only do their bright colors and prints have PRIYA written all over them, this is a brand my mom and even grandma grew up wearing in Finland. Marimekko was founded in Finland in 1951, and exploded into a visionary design house in the 60’s & 70’s, with their iconic patterns (like the Unikko poppy) and stripes. I “earned my stripes” in the form of a Marimekko tee at a very young age, and fueled by many gifts from my Finnish relatives, my liking turned into a full-blown obsession for all things Marimekko (which I've blogged about several times...)

I totally flipped when Target did their + Marimekko capsule this past Spring (and bought all the things), and I’ve been known to recognize their prints on sight when people are wearing them. Naturally when I saw this skirt in a fellow Poshmark closet, I knew it had to be Marimekko, and I had to have it. Even better- I traded for this with a dress that didn’t fit me anymore. Buying and selling on Poshmark is grand, but trading is kinda the best- exchanging an item on it’s way out for something you’re dying to wear, yes please (I just traded for two more items last night!) 

If you’re interested, you can shop my closet on Poshmark here. Sign up for Poshmark with code PWGSG and we both get $10 to spend! 

This skirt paired with my Swedish Hasbeens felt like the perfect nod to my Scandinavian heritage. 

Hope you're having a great week! I've been busy through and through, with work and life, so that's why you've barely heard a peep from me. But I'll talk to you soon :) 

Friday, September 16

Cool Girl

| lip: Cailyn Matte Tint in Pure Lust / similar matte pink | top: Aritzia via Carina / similar | purse: Marc Jacobs via Carina / similar | shorts: Topshop | shooties: Payless / similar (so cool!) |
[click the item names for additional styling options, vendor for product details/to shop!]

It has taken approximately two listens to Tove Lo's new song, Cool Girl, to get it stuck in my head from now until the END OF TIME. That's really where the title of the post comes from, not that I didn't feel cool in new brocade shorts walking in Brooklyn to dinner and drinks at the Brooklyn Barge. 

Of course I feverishly threw several potential going-out-fit pieces (all black) into my bag on Friday night before heading to NYC last weekend, and of course I hated them all upon arrival. Saturday's goal was to find an outfit I loved for going out that night, and after several stops in SoHo, I found these shorts at Topshop (they are available online! I'm wearing a 6 for your reference.) This was my first time in a Topshop! I fell in love with this print on a dress first, and then I saw the shorts and realized they would go perfectly with this crop top. Plus I love shorts these days. Bonus that I can wear them with tights in the Winter. And I really, really, love brocade!

As crazy as last weekend was, that's how chill and normal this weekend is- I have big goals of cleaning my house top to bottom (including my closet!), cooking something healthy for next week, dinner with friends, and some good workouts. Hope your weekend rocks, too!

Thursday, September 15

Summer Office Casual

| tank: from Carina {J.Crew} / similar | belt: from dress / similar | pants: secondhand Forever 21 / similar {so cool!} |   | sandals: Target | [click the item names for additional styling options, vendor for product details/to shop!]

I guess I should stop saying how much I don't like these pants, since this is the fourth time they've been worn on the blog! I love the style, though I'm not super confident in the fit. I guess I'll add "olive green pants that fit like a glove" to my "closet holes" list!

This is just a super casual I wore to work this Summer (with the hoodie on, don't worry Mom!) The only notable thing here is that I loved this color combo. This tank top is what I call a "rand-me-down" from my sister Carina, but it's one of my favorites because the color is so unusual (and the fit = perfect.) I'm trying to figure out what this color is called...I'd describe it as an orange-brown-red (so eloquent) but it likens to Pantone's "Potters Clay", part of the Fall 2016 palette! I might have to leave this tank in my closet through the Fall.

I've just got one more Summer outfit to share, and then I'm officially transitioning into Fall around here. If only the temperature would cooperate. Happy little Friday, everyone!

Tuesday, September 13

Weekend Update: 36 Hours in NYC

So I went to New York City for the first time (basically) this weekend, and I’ll just say, all the stereotypes are true!

My head was on a swivel for 36 hours as we: walked everywhere, drank under string lights in Brooklyn, watched people cuss out a taxi cab that nearly ran them over, ate a life-changing bagel, saw Fashion Week models “in the wild”, got hustled by tiny Asian ladies selling knock-off designer goods, rode the Subway and everyone was wearing headphones, and visited Times Square in the middle of the night (and it was as light as day.) 

OH- and the STREET STYLE! I get it now! Everyone is so freaking stylish- like, even if they were wearing something I would never wear, I could see that there was a concept behind the look, and I’m totally into that. I can see why you’d want to wear Nikes all over the city (so much walking) but I can also see why you totally wouldn’t. The only thing I “missed out on” was a Subway rat, and I use “ “ because rodents are my phobia fear so I didn’t miss out.

Thank you to my sister Carina “Little Peanut” who is always spoiling me and giving me honest feedback on sartorial choices. She’s the smallest bully I’ve ever known, and I totally bullied her into wearing and getting some lip color.

Friday, September 9

What I'm Excited to Wear This Fall

While true Fall is still weeks away in Nashville, like every other blogger, I am positively dreaming about what I’ll get to wear when the season rolls around. To be honest, I’m usually a few seasons late to trends (for better or for worse), so while some of these picks are super trendy right now, others of them are simply that: things I’m excited to wear this Fall. Fall being the most magical time of year, obviously. Bring on the pumpkin spice!

1. drawstring pants {exact} | I’ve been wearing my cargos & longing for loose linen pants that can also be hi-waisted. Old Navy (fave) has exactly what I’m looking for. I would wear those with a sweater + booties so fast!

2. velvet {similar} | I’ve actually been a huge fan of velvet since…well, forever. Imagine my excitement to learn that it’s in style! I have a velvet pencil skirt I need to re-style, I also came across ^ this velvet tee & I'm OBSESSED.

3. clogs with socks {very similar} | You already know I’m obsessed with clogsclogs with socks is a look I’ve also grown to love. I’ve dabbled with it before, but how adorable are clogs with patterned socks? I’m determined to try again and be a little braver with my sock choice.

4. button-front skirt {similar} | This may be the trendiest piece of the Fall, & I need one! I’m not too keen on wearing a mini-skirt to work, so I’m dreaming of a corduroy midi (so 70’s!) ^ This Topshop one is sold out, but there are so many great options: here, here, and here.

5. cat eye sunglasses {similar} | I need to up my sunglasses game, for sure. I love the alternative “cat eyes” that are popping up all over; colors, prints, sky’s the limit! A few pairs I love here, here, and here.

6. camel coat {very similar} | I can’t get over how chic this entire combo looks. I think it’s fair to buy a new coat for the year (esp. since I lost my favorite coat) & it might have to be a timeless camel. I like the ones that look more “oversized blazer” than “peacoat/trench."

7. lace up flats {similar} | This is the shoe of the moment and I am totally into it. Something about lace-up flats seems sexy but still sweet (& comfy- oh how I love flats!) Once again, Old Navy has a pair that I would be perf!

8. dark lipstick {could be exact?} | On the beauty front, dark vampy lipstick is everywhere. Ashlyn has been bold enough to wear black (& looks fantastic!) I would love to try out a very dark purple. I love lip color, but this would be a step out of my comfort zone! I came across this super handy pin of the best drugstore dark lip colors, also interested in my go-to lip in their darkest shades NYX / Stila.

9. maroon turtleneck {similar} | I’m dreaming of an over-sized sweater with a turtleneck/cowl neck that I can wear with absolutely everything! A neutral color will also do, but this dark maroon seems too perfect for the season.

10. plaid + a new hat {similar} | This is a twofer! I already have a green plaid just like this, & I also got my hands on the perfect plaid for Fall (via thredup.) What could feel more Autumnal?

This is the first time I’ve ever done a seasonal wishlist, and I’m hoping it will help me be a smarter and more responsible shopper; and overall, give me a better sense of what I want my style to be like.

What’s on top of your list to wear this Fall? If you’ve done a preview/lookbook/style story, share the link below, I would love to see it! 

As of {too} early tomorrow morning, I am off to NYC for a very quick, very belated birthday trip with my Little Peanut (NYC super fan.) The odds have been in my favor this afternoon, which means I should be able to check off most of my Fall shopping wish-list this weekend in the city that never sleeps. Look for some Fall preview outfits in the coming weeks! TTYL!

Wednesday, September 7

Head to Toe Remix #6: LWD

graphic by David Saunders
| lip: The Beauty Crop PBJ Smooth Stick | necklace: gift (31 Bits) | cardi: Gap (similar) | dress: gift (ASOS) (similar) |      | clogs: Swedish Hasbeens (same in red / similar) | purse: from Jenae! | 

Well, I can’t believe we’re already here! Both at the end of the Summer and the end of our #HeadtoToeRemix

Six weeks ago, Elana & I set out to remix six pieces in our closet, from head to toe, in an effort to shop our closets, instead of the alternative (you know, real shopping.) We’ve styled accessories, outerwear, tops, bottoms, shoes, {click through for the full posts!} and finally today: dresses! 

I have to say, I chose this white dress knowing I could look no further than Room 334 for a bunch of styling ideas! Elana is a self-proclaimed white dress lover and Priya-proclaimed LWD evangelist (LWD, you know, the cool Summer sister of the LBD.) When I was looking through Elana’s blog for ideas for styling this dress, I really liked…all of them, so I basically combined them into what you see here! A neutral cardigan from this outfit, clogs a la this look, red necklace c/o this combo, and sunglasses and lip color that are included in more of her outfit posts than not! 

I got this dress as a birthday present from my friend Katie last Summer, and wore it just as many times as I could (on the 4th of July, and even into the Fall!) I think I’ve worn it just once this Summer, so it definitely needed another rendezvous before the season was over (and in case you’re wondering, I did technically wear this before Labor Day.) This outfit is a great reminder to me that really simple looks are a-ok, both stylistically and comfortably! I wore this all day, from work to dinner and drinks and Trivial Pursuit, and felt great! It was the perfect outfit for a really lovely late Summer’s evening. 
And I love that conversely, Elana is styling an LBD! Black dresses are one of those things that can almost be an overwhelming blank canvas, but I think Elana nailed it with the accessories (she is the queen of sunglasses, seriously!) She should definitely hang on to this floaty chiffon number. You can see her entire post right here!

I’ve been so pleased with the result of this remix challenge. Besides taking the chance to look at and style neglected items in my closet a new way, I also spent the entire month of August without buying anything! Plus it’s just been fun to be in regular contact and blogging alongside Elana. Thanks Elana for collaborating with me!

And thanks to all of you for following along with the #HeadtoToeRemix

What was your favorite look of the series? Do you have a tip to share for shopping your closet? Let me know!